Comments on: Purity Balls http://sheworships.com/2010/08/03/purity-balls/ Christian theology for the every day woman. Thu, 17 May 2012 17:49:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sharon http://sheworships.com/2010/08/03/purity-balls/#comment-4141 Sharon Tue, 17 Aug 2010 18:13:50 +0000 http://sheworships.com/?p=519#comment-4141 Ani, thanks for your thoughts! I did not mean to imply that sex before marriage has NO consequences for marriage. It very much does. For instance, one of the big struggles that couples face is comparing sex before marriage (when it can be more consistently hot and steamy because it often results from the build up of trying to abstain) versus sex in marriage (when it's not always so lightning hot because it's more a part of daily life). Not to mention the lack of trust and respect that result which, though hardly noticeable at first, can manifest itself years later in some surprising or even devastating ways. So yes you are right. Sex before marriage WILL affect sex in marriage. It may not ruin it, but there are often times unfortunate consequences. Ani, thanks for your thoughts! I did not mean to imply that sex before marriage has NO consequences for marriage. It very much does. For instance, one of the big struggles that couples face is comparing sex before marriage (when it can be more consistently hot and steamy because it often results from the build up of trying to abstain) versus sex in marriage (when it’s not always so lightning hot because it’s more a part of daily life). Not to mention the lack of trust and respect that result which, though hardly noticeable at first, can manifest itself years later in some surprising or even devastating ways.

So yes you are right. Sex before marriage WILL affect sex in marriage. It may not ruin it, but there are often times unfortunate consequences.

]]> By: Ani http://sheworships.com/2010/08/03/purity-balls/#comment-4139 Ani Tue, 17 Aug 2010 18:00:32 +0000 http://sheworships.com/?p=519#comment-4139 I like this post, but I did want to mention that there have been studies done to show that when a couple has sex before marriage, there are certain difficulties they face in marriage. Lack of trust, feeling not good enough are a couple of these things. Obviously this does not happen 100% of the time and God's restoration can overcome all of that, but it does happen. The studies show that waiting until marriage reaps many benefits. I like this post, but I did want to mention that there have been studies done to show that when a couple has sex before marriage, there are certain difficulties they face in marriage. Lack of trust, feeling not good enough are a couple of these things. Obviously this does not happen 100% of the time and God’s restoration can overcome all of that, but it does happen. The studies show that waiting until marriage reaps many benefits.

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