Comments on: The Single Greatest Determiner of a Lasting Marriage http://sheworships.com/2012/01/19/the-single-greatest-determiner-of-a-lasting-marriage/ Christian theology for the every day woman. Thu, 17 May 2012 17:49:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sharon http://sheworships.com/2012/01/19/the-single-greatest-determiner-of-a-lasting-marriage/#comment-24770 Sharon Thu, 19 Jan 2012 18:59:09 +0000 http://sheworships.com/?p=1382#comment-24770 Thanks, Tim! And I'll be sure to check out your post! Thanks, Tim! And I’ll be sure to check out your post!

]]> By: Tim http://sheworships.com/2012/01/19/the-single-greatest-determiner-of-a-lasting-marriage/#comment-24737 Tim Thu, 19 Jan 2012 16:15:53 +0000 http://sheworships.com/?p=1382#comment-24737 Great insights on relationships here, Sharon. This sentence in particular really packs a punch: "When working through conflict the ultimate goal is not victory but intimacy." I like it because it makes two points for me. The first is identifying the ultimate goal of working through conflict as achieving reconciliation and intimacy rather than being able to carve a notch in one's victory belt. The second is recognizing that resolving conflict takes work. That's one of the things I tell people who talk to me about wanting to get married, that marriage is not all sunshine, lollipops and rainbows (http://www.lyricsdepot.com/lesley-gore/sunshine-lollipops-and-rainbows.html). Instead, a good marriage will at times be a rough slog yet always worth it in the end. Cheers, Tim P.S. I recently did another guest post over at Aimee Byrd's site (http://www.housewifetheologian.com/all-of-me/). I hope you get a chance to take a look at it! Great insights on relationships here, Sharon. This sentence in particular really packs a punch: “When working through conflict the ultimate goal is not victory but intimacy.”

I like it because it makes two points for me. The first is identifying the ultimate goal of working through conflict as achieving reconciliation and intimacy rather than being able to carve a notch in one’s victory belt. The second is recognizing that resolving conflict takes work. That’s one of the things I tell people who talk to me about wanting to get married, that marriage is not all sunshine, lollipops and rainbows (http://www.lyricsdepot.com/lesley-gore/sunshine-lollipops-and-rainbows.html). Instead, a good marriage will at times be a rough slog yet always worth it in the end.

Cheers,
Tim

P.S. I recently did another guest post over at Aimee Byrd’s site (http://www.housewifetheologian.com/all-of-me/). I hope you get a chance to take a look at it!

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