Why Hurt People Hurt People

Sharon Forgiveness 5 Comments

Two summers ago, Ike and I endured a situation that we never hope to relive. I can’t go into the specifics of it, but the bare bones of it is this: we were treated horribly by a person we could not escape. We were forced to be around him for a period of time while he disrespected us, degraded us, …


Is Shame Ever a Good Thing?

Sharon Forgiveness, Spiritual Health 10 Comments

Is shame ever a good thing? That’s a question I’ve been wrestling with for the last year. About a year and a half ago I wrote a post for Her.meneutics called How “Modest is Hottest” is Hurting Christian Women. In it I criticized the way women are shamed for the way they dress, and my remarks about shame invited some …

The Wrong Kind of Healing

Sharon Forgiveness 5 Comments

Opening Note: I know it’s Valentine’s Day, but this is NOT a Valentine’s Day post. Not even close. BUT, this topic has been on my mind a lot lately, so I hope it will speak to the people who need it today! Anyone who has had even the tiniest smidgen of counseling training has probably been told that there’s no …

C.S. Lewis on Forgiveness

Sharon Forgiveness 2 Comments

“To excuse what can really produce good excuses is not Christian charity; it is only fairness. To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you. This is hard. It is perhaps not so hard to forgive a single injury. But to forgive the incessant provocations of daily life – to keep on …

Mean Thoughts

Sharon Forgiveness, Leadership 4 Comments

As some of you know, I wrote an article for Her.meneutics a few weeks ago that incited the rage of my readers. In all honesty, I was utterly shocked by the response. The article, titled How to Talk About Having Children, was not intended to be controversial. In fact, I thought it would go right under the radar as one …

When Christian Friendships End

Sharon Forgiveness, Friendships 16 Comments

As someone who feels particularly called to women’s ministry, I am a little ashamed to admit that during my years as an adult I have had a number of catastrophic fallings out with friends. Despite my belief that this behavior was supposed to have ended in high school, some of my biggest blow-ups have occurred since graduating college. After every …