Category: Friendships

The Surprising Way I Struggle with Self-Image

When I was about 25 years old I spent a summer working as a hospital chaplain. It was a hard job, to say the least. Every day I was confronted with death, grief, brokenness, and suffering. By the end of it I was emotionally drained, and it took me months to recover. In addition to…
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The Wide Gate to Superficial Friendships

This post is Part 2 in a brief series about gossip. To read Part 1 click here. Whenever I write about the topic of taming the tongue, whether I address gossip, sarcasm, or other speech related vices, I always meet with a similar critique. Without fail, one or two commenters almost always protest, “But you…
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When You’re Drowning in the Shallow End of Friendship

Ever since Ike and I moved to the Chicago area 3 years ago, things have mostly been great. We love school, we’ve had a blast exploring the city and going on adventures, and then the crowning moment of it all: we had our son. In so many ways, the last 3 years have been a…
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Why Do I Feel Lonely If I’m Never Alone?

Community can be so elusive, can’t it? I didn’t fully understand the rareness of true, heart friends until I moved away from North Carolina 2 years ago. Starting over is much harder than I thought it would be, but cross-country re-locations are not the only obstacle to community. Another barrier to community can be life…
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What “Iron Sharpening Iron” Does Not Mean

Just before Isaac was born, my parents and my mother-in-law made the long drive from North Carolina to Illinois to come stay with us and wait for the baby. They arrived well in advance of his due date, but as luck would have it Isaac was a week and a half late. Between my parents’…
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