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The One Question to Ask When You Feel Left Out

Sharon Relationships, Social Networking 9 Comments

A couple years ago I had the privilege of interviewing Ann Voskamp about her then-newly released Advent book, The Greatest Gift. Ann was full of wisdom and truth, but one thing in particular stuck with me.  If you’ve ever visited Ann’s site you know she loves photography, and this is what she had to say about it: “I love photography because photography …

Whose Side Are You On, Anyway?

Sharon Relationships 0 Comments

This week the women’s ministry at my church began a video series that accompanies Lysa TerKeurst’s new book Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions. I was intrigued by the title so I was anxious to view the first lesson, and it didn’t disappoint. In the first session Lysa looks at the Old Testament story of Joshua …

Dating Advice: It is Ok If I….?

Sharon Dating, Relationships 6 Comments

In 2008 I wrote a two-part blog post about the Christian dating practice of sleeping over but not having sex. The first was called “Sleeping Over: The Latest Trend in Christian Sketchiness” and you can access Part 2 here. The posts were so popular that I re-posted them again a year later, and those posts have since become two of …

How Honest is Too Honest?

Sharon Marriage, Relationships 2 Comments

Earlier this week I had a fascinating conversation with some friends about how much honesty is helpful in a dating or marriage relationship. For instance, how much should a dating couple share about their past experience? Or in a marriage, how much should a man divulge his sexual thought life to his wife? This is an extremely delicate question because …

The Courage to Date Well

Sharon Dating, Relationships, Singleness 5 Comments

Last night Ike and I got to have dinner with one of our single guy friends, and over the course of the meal the conversation drifted to the topic of dating. I’ve only been married a year so I remember the ups and downs of the dating world well. Over the years I’ve had my share of break-ups, and I’ve also …

Big Sister Dating Advice

Sharon Dating, Purity, Relationships 3 Comments

One of my greatest joys in life is to hear from former students or young women that I have led in the past. After our paths diverge, I sometimes wonder if anything I said or the way I lived my life had any impact at all, so it’s a tremendous affirmation when these women seek my advice or friendship after …

Reconsidering Christian “Fakeness”

Sharon Community, Relationships 0 Comments

One of the common complaints about Christians today (often by other Christians) is that we’re fake. As the indictment goes, no one is being “real.” Words like “honest” and “authentic” are thrown around a lot. We need to be honest about our sins and have authentic community. I’m sure I’ve said stuff along those lines myself. However, I’ve started to …

Female Chauvinists part 2

Sharon Dating, Friendships, Relationships 0 Comments

 In my last post I explored the thinking behind women who would rather hang out with men than women. As the logic goes, women are too dramatic, emotional, boring, etc. For this and many other reasons, “low maintenance women” don’t want to put up with their “high maintenance” counter-parts. As I concluded in the last post, this mindset has some …

Learning to Trust God…and My Husband

Sharon Marriage, Relationships, Trust 3 Comments

This weekend marked 3 months since Ike and I got married. And an awesome 3 months it has been! We’ve had a ton of fun together, but we’ve also learned a lot about one another and ourselves in the process. In particular, I’ve realized that I’m a bit of a control freak when it comes to driving. You see, I’m …