For a good portion of my dating life, I have largely misunderstood God’s design for men. This misunderstanding resulted from my personal dating experiences, and it developed the following way… For a long period of time, I never dated a guy who ever seemed that into me. He might have liked me at first, but as the relationship progressed he …
The Virtues of Dating Non-Christians
So yesterday I had another one of those “you really shouldn’t date him” conversations with one of my friends. You know the kind–your friend likes a guy who isn’t a Christian, and even though she knows she can’t marry him, she still sees potential for change so she wants to date him. Whenever we see our friends do this, the …
Irreconcilable Differences
“Irreconcilable differences.” That seems to be one of the most common reasons for divorce that you hear today. And I really have no idea what it means. I sometimes wonder if it’s a generic way of categorizing more specific problem, ie. “I want my wife to stop cheating on me but she would prefer not to” or “I want to …
Equally Yoked?
What is spiritual leadership? This is a question about which there has been a great deal of confusion among Christians. We all know that we need to date guys who can lead us spiritually, and we also know that we are to date people with whom we are equally yoked. The problem is that these two elements are not always …
Playing Favorites: Couples, Singles, and the Church
Last week I almost didn’t tithe….deliberately. The sermon had just ended and I was sitting in my seat, all ready to stick my little check in the offering bucket. Then one of the pastors made an announcement about an upcoming event, and I immediately reconsidered my decision. He explained that, in connection with the current sermon series on dating and …
And He Will Rule Over You
There are few verses that will stick in a feminist’s craw like Genesis 3:16. (And in case you’re wondering, “stick in her craw” is southern for “annoy.” Or in this case, “send her into a scathing tirade about patriarchy”) To some extent, this frustration is entirely understandable. The idea that women will desire their husbands, but their husbands will rule …