That Awkward Moment When Your Whole Identity Shifts

Two and a half years ago, Ike and I drove across town once a week, for 10 weeks, to attend a birthing class. We wanted to learn as much as we could about the experience ahead, so we enrolled in a rigorous course. In that class we learned about everything–the stages of labor, how to…
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“Don’t Ever Have a Girl”

It wasn’t long after we found out we were having another boy that I began to field this question from people: “Do you think you’ll ever try for a girl?” This question makes me laugh, because it’s sort of like asking, “Do you think you’ll try to win the lottery?” Not that girls are the…
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The Woman Who Looked Back

At some time or another, every person has the following, ground-shifting realization: I am not a kid anymore. I’m an adult. It’s time to let go and grow up. This is the story of when that happened to Ike and me. It was a hot summer night and I was 8 months pregnant with Isaac….
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Why Hurt People Hurt People

Two summers ago, Ike and I endured a situation that we never hope to relive. I can’t go into the specifics of it, but the bare bones of it is this: we were treated horribly by a person we could not escape. We were forced to be around him for a period of time while…
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Bent

Years ago, before we moved to Chicago and were still living in Durham, my pastor used a sermon illustration that I’ve never forgotten. He compared the average Christian’s faith to a balloon, one filled not with helium but with air. He said that each week, many Christians come to church expecting their pastor to bat…
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