“Don’t Ever Have a Girl”

It wasn’t long after we found out we were having another boy that I began to field this question from people: “Do you think you’ll ever try for a girl?” This question makes me laugh, because it’s sort of like asking, “Do you think you’ll try to win the lottery?” Not that girls are the…
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The Woman Who Looked Back

At some time or another, every person has the following, ground-shifting realization: I am not a kid anymore. I’m an adult. It’s time to let go and grow up. This is the story of when that happened to Ike and me. It was a hot summer night and I was 8 months pregnant with Isaac….
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Why Hurt People Hurt People

Two summers ago, Ike and I endured a situation that we never hope to relive. I can’t go into the specifics of it, but the bare bones of it is this: we were treated horribly by a person we could not escape. We were forced to be around him for a period of time while…
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Bent

Years ago, before we moved to Chicago and were still living in Durham, my pastor used a sermon illustration that I’ve never forgotten. He compared the average Christian’s faith to a balloon, one filled not with helium but with air. He said that each week, many Christians come to church expecting their pastor to bat…
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Struggling To Make Sense Of Life When A Parent Leaves

Two nights ago Ike put our son to bed, walked into the living room, settled in on the couch, then turned to me and smiled. “Do you know what Isaac just did? He hugged me, told me he loved me, and said ‘Goodnight.’ He’s never done that before.” As he spoke, Ike’s voice began to…
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