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Free of Me

Why life is better when it’s not about you.

The self-focused life robs our joy, shrinks our souls, and gets us stuck in insecurity. In Free of Me, you’ll be invited into a bigger, Jesus-centered vision that restores your freedom and inspires you to live for more.

Ready to break free?

Insecurity doesn’t have to own you. Free of Me will help you…

  • Identify the secret source of insecurity
  • Understand how self-focus sabotages seven areas of your life
  • Learn four practical steps for focusing on God and others
  • Experience freedom from the burden of self-focus

Still not sure if this is for you? See what other leaders have to say…

Free of Me may be one of the most important truths for our times. This is not a book to only read— this is a book to become. Sharon Hodde Miller hands every woman a key with these pages that no woman can afford to pass up. Free of Meis the breaking free every soul desperately seeks.

Ann VoskampNew York Times Bestselling Author, The Broken Way

In Free of Me, Sharon exposes a mind-set that is not only widespread but prevents many of us from experiencing true freedom in Christ: living for self. Drawing on her own journey, Sharon offers deep spiritual wisdom through relatable stories to reveal the peril of self-focus, and she invites readers into a bigger, better story. In a culture captivated by self, this book is a must-read.

Christine CaineFounder of A21 and Propel Women

Sharon spotlights the crippling disease of self-focus and shows us how to break free from its entanglements. If you want to walk in God’s life-giving truth, this book will help you do just that!

Lysa TerKeurstNew York Times bestselling author & president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

The most deceptive lies the enemy tells us concern how we see ourselves. Free of Me teaches us to see ourselves as God sees us. It is honest, down-to-earth, biblical, faithful, and gospel rich. Sharon writes like she lives—authentically, carefully, and accessibly. I count her a great friend and this a great book.

J. D. GreearPastor at The Summit Church & Author of Stop Asking Jesus Into Your Heart: How to Know for Sure You Are Saved

Sharon's passion in life is Jesus and giving him away to others. Sharon has lived intentionally and her perspective is hard-fought in the trenches of following Jesus and conforming her life to look like his. She is a thoughtful, contagious force–so prepare to love Jesus more.

Jennie AllenFounder of IF: Gathering & author of Nothing to Prove

There is a troubling trend in Christian messages today: gospels which are more about self than Christ. In Free of Me, Sharon takes aim at this false gospel, revealing its emptiness and why it can't deliver. Through personal testimony and scriptural backing, she explains how we can reject these messages and focus on the one true gospel that frees. In these pages, Sharon issues a bold call we all need to hear, which is why I highly recommend this book.

Ed StetzerBilly Graham Distinguished Chair, Wheaton College

One of the best things for a healthy marriage, workplace, parent situation, or any calling is to realize the world is not orbiting around our axis. True joy is found when we realize there is a bigger story to tell, and the tyranny of 'me' is actually a terrible slave driver. In Free of Me, Sharon paints this picture more beautifully than anyone I know. I hope you are encouraged as much as I was.

Jefferson BethkeAuthor of Love That Lasts

Too many books written by and for Christian women are shallow and trivial. This is not one of them. Free of Me provides deep biblical and human understanding and offers the best sort of wisdom: honest, hard-won, and biblically sound. I will be recommending this book widely and enthusiastically to many for years to come.

Karen Swallow PriorPhD, professor of English at Liberty University; author of Booked and Fierce Convictions

Rarely do I read a book with the powerful combination of eloquence and practical truth, but Free of Me has it. Sharon Miller has woven honest personal stories with steady wisdom in guiding us to the joy that comes from a life of freedom from self. What a gift to our me first culture. This book is a sweet discipling on every page. I'm grateful for the message of Free of Me and the lives it will truly set free.

Lisa WhittleSpeaker; author of I Want God and Put Your Warrior Boots On

Determined to recover joy she had known and somehow lost, Sharon Hodde Miller set out on a quest to find the root of soul-sapping insecurity that was sabotaging relationships and roles she once loved. What she discovered is deeper than self-help; it is soul healing and life-shifting. In Free of Me, Sharon takes us with her on a gut-honest search for answers to the questions our hearts are asking: What's wrong with me? Why do I feel like I'm never enough? Grounded in God's Word and packed with personal stories, insightful revelations, applicable resolutions, and sometimes humorous yet convicting truth, this message will set you free!

Renee SwopeBestselling author of A Confident Heart

In this honest, engaging, and refreshing book, Sharon adjusts our gaze ever so slightly, but that slight perspective shift makes all the difference. The struggle against chronic self-focus is personal to me, and I'm grateful to Sharon for this manual of sorts to help redirect my gaze back to the gospel, to others, to God.

Amanda Bible WilliamsAuthor and chief content officer at She Reads Truth

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Download The Group Study Guide!

We’ve put together a FREE Group Study Guide for you to use with your study group.

Use Free of Me as a group study to:

  • Engage in a group discussion on freedom
  • Dive into scripture as a group
  • Hear a special message from Sharon to group leaders

What’s inside?

A practical guide to step out of our me-centered culture

Inside Free of Me, you’ll learn the three myths of self-focus, and what happens when we make things about ourselves — like God, our families, and our calling. Most importantly, we’ll dive into the freedom of a life lived in Christ.

This book is for…

Anyone yearning for a purpose bigger than “project me”

If you’re tried of a self-help gospel that is full of empty promises, this book is for you. In Free of Me, you’ll find biblically based wisdom to help you break out of the self improvement cycle and rest in the promises of God.

Just some Amazon reviews

This has been my favorite Christian guidance book so far.


This book is a must read for everyone. Man or woman, this book will impact you!


This book has given me a lot to think about in terms of how I live my life.


I love this book!! It’s so good!! Did a bible study on it and everything!!


I’m reading through this for the second time now and I’ve decided that I will revisit it every single year!


As someone afflicted by low self esteem and insecurity I found this to be an easy book to relate to.

J. D.

Great book. The curriculum was great too. Did it with small group ladies.


There really is freeing power within these pages. Sharon gets straight to the issues...


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