One of my favorite blogs to read is The View From Her which offers both godly advice and practical advice for women. Last week she posted a blog entitled “Holiday Survival Tips for Singles” that I really loved. While her ideas are certainly helpful, I was most encouraged by the spirit behind them. You can see for yourself:
“The holidays can be a difficult time for singles. We feel awkward at parties full of couples. We get lonely. Our families continually ask when we’re going to bring a nice guy (or girl) home for Christmas. We find ourselves innocently lingering in the general beneath-area of the mistletoe. (…Maybe that’s just me.) Anyway, here are a few positive ways for singles to deal with the holidays.
Consider this: as singles we often put many decisions and experiences on hold until we meet Mr./Ms. Right. We don’t buy dishes, jewelry, or plan exotic vacations, because we’re waiting to do those things with that special someone. I confess – a few years back I realized that though I’d always wanted a cross necklace, I’d never bought one because I thought it would be a special gift to get from a significant other. That year I bought one, wrapped it, and crowed “Oh it’s exactly what I wanted!” when I opened it. And I’ve enjoyed it ever since.
One great way to survive the holidays is: don’t put off doing special things. If you want a set of Christmas dishes and can afford them, buy them now. Bake cookies, even if you just take them to work…the fragrance will linger in your house through the next day. Burn the fancy candles. Put a fire in the fireplace. Decorate your home for Christmas. Yes, even if you live alone. (If you’re going to be alone anyway, opt to do it with as many twinkle lights as possible.) Put up a Christmas Tree. A real one. If you have any positive childhood memories of Christmas at all, the smell of a Christmas tree every day will bring them all back.
You know what I’m saying. Don’t wait. Live your life now. Celebrate Christmas in every way you can.”
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I LOVE that story about the cross necklace! Hilarious. But Jan’s (the author) point is also true. A lot of single women put off big purchases and life changes (like buying a house) until they’re married, which makes the living in waiting feel much more acute. I appreciate her acknowledgement of the fact that God has special treasures for single women too. You do not get His table scraps! God wants much more for you than you even want for yourself, so make sure you’re not missing out on it. Special thanks to Jan for grabbing hold of that truth and living it out!
Thanks so much for the shout-out, and for your kind affirmations. Sometimes it’s hard – especially for believers – to be single, and the holidays can especially be difficult. It’s great to share encouragement!