Sisters in Calling

Sharon Community, Self-esteem 11 Comments

Last week I attended a writers conference in Grand Rapids that–due to no fault of its own–I had been dreading for weeks. The conference itself is fantastic, but I have a real love/hate relationship with writers conferences. On the one hand, I love seeing old friends, making new ones, and learning more. On the other hand, writers conferences dig up a lot of …

Mend and Send

Sharon Body Image, Self-esteem 3 Comments

I don’t know if you’ve noticed this, but when it comes to topics like insecurity, or shame, or low self-esteem, there is a certain way to approach them. Do you know what I’m talking about? Both inside and outside the church, there is a script for these topics, and that script is affirmation. Piles and PILES of affirmation: affirmation about God’s love, about who you …

Comparing Yourself to the Woman on Stage

Sharon Jealousy, Self-esteem 1 Comment

Last week I got an e-mail from a friend that asked this question: “There is a trend lately with Christian women [speakers and writers] encouraging other Christian women to stop striving for perfection, comparing ourselves to other women, and buying tons of stuff to replace God in our lives. The issue I have is they are preaching this while wearing a …

Silencing the Roar of a Thousand Opinions

Sharon Self-esteem 3 Comments

My husband is a gracious man so he won’t admit this openly, but I have a long history of embarrassing him in public. Take the Chocolate Cake Incident of 2009. It was our first year of marriage and we were at Disney World. We were dining at the Canadian restaurant in Epcot, and we had just finished our entrees. I …



Sharon Scripture, Self-esteem 1 Comment

Years ago, before we moved to Chicago and were still living in Durham, my pastor used a sermon illustration that I’ve never forgotten. He compared the average Christian’s faith to a balloon, one filled not with helium but with air. He said that each week, many Christians come to church expecting their pastor to bat their balloon high into the …


Am I Accepted?

Sharon Self-esteem 4 Comments

About a year ago, Ike and I began attending a church that we now love. It’s been a wonderful home for our family, and we’ve been blessed to be a part of the community. The anniversary of our joining the church kind of snuck up on me. For an entire year, we’ve thought of ourselves as “the new people.” Whenever …


Finding Myself in the Song of Songs

Sharon Self-esteem 4 Comments

On and off, for the past couple months, I have been digging into the Song of Songs. Random, right? No I’m not trying to spice up my sex life, and no I’m not looking for tips on marriage. Instead, I set my sites a little more narrowly. For the last few months I’ve focused on the Shulammite woman, the main …


Raising Girls Who Honor Their Bodies and Love Themselves

Sharon Modesty, Self-esteem 5 Comments

About a year after I graduated from college–nearly 10 years ago–I overheard a conversation between several young men that I have never forgotten. Back then the show Newlyweds was popular, a reality series following the marriage between Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey. The young men were discussing the show, and they landed on the topic of Jessica Simpson’s “hotness.” The …


You are not an object. You are a person.

Sharon Body Image, Self-esteem 5 Comments

I can’t believe it’s been 2 weeks since I last posted! Sorry folks! Last week Ike and I flew down to North Carolina to surprise my mother-in-law for her 60th birthday, so I had to go silent on social media. I didn’t want to risk spilling the beans. Fortunately, she was TOTALLY surprised and delighted to see us (and by …