What If Everyone Agreed With Me?

Sharon Church, Community 1 Comment

  What if everyone agreed with me? I’ve been asking myself that question a lot the past few days. Or should I say daydreaming about it, because that’s really what it amounts to. Every time I read a mean comment, or a stereotype, or an opinion I just plain disagree with, I ball up my fists and growl, How could they POSSIBLY think that? My righteous anger …

Sisters in Calling

Sharon Community, Self-esteem 11 Comments

Last week I attended a writers conference in Grand Rapids that–due to no fault of its own–I had been dreading for weeks. The conference itself is fantastic, but I have a real love/hate relationship with writers conferences. On the one hand, I love seeing old friends, making new ones, and learning more. On the other hand, writers conferences dig up a lot of …

What If We Fought Like We Loved Each Other?

Sharon Church, Community 2 Comments

Last month a friend of mine posted this as his Facebook status: “It’s not even the 2016 election yet, and unfriend season is already in full swing. How did we get here so fast?” When I read this I laughed, because I feel 100% the same way. Although for me, “unfriend season” is not limited to election years. Whenever a …


Why Not Me?

Sharon Community 14 Comments

I have put off writing this post for awhile, because I was a little embarrassed to share it. It’s one of those lessons that I should have learned in high school–maybe even middle school–but I’m still struggling with it today. I was afraid that, in sharing it, I would seem immature or emotionally stunted, but I finally decided to bite …


Confessions of a Needy Woman

Sharon Community, Humility 4 Comments

A few months ago, Ike and I added a new parenting milestone to our resumé: we were sick at the same time. Maybe “milestone” isn’t the right word–the experience was somewhere between a trauma and an accomplishment–but either way, we did it. We survived. And lest you think this was a little sniffly cold that descended on our home, it …


Women, Labels, and Why We Need to Just Stop

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“Once you label me, you negate me.” – Soren Kierkegaard This week I spent some time with a group of women I didn’t know very well. Some I didn’t know at all, which meant that each and every introduction began with this initial question: “So, what do you do?” Whenever the interview turned my way, I usually answered the question …

Rescued by the Bride

Sharon Church, Community 4 Comments

During my twenties my parents used to joke that I would always have a crisis when they were on vacation. When I was single, that certainly seemed to be the case. Whenever they were out of the country, out of cell phone range, or generally out of reach, I would become sick with a parasite, or go through a horrible …

Church Cultures That Crush the Weak

Sharon Church, Community 11 Comments

In the last several months, Sovereign Grace Ministries, a network of Reformed churches, has been in the news as the result of a sexual abuse scandal and allegations of a cover up. Although there is much we don’t know for sure, some of the adults accused of abusing children at two different SGM churches are now serving time in prison. …


Why Do I Feel Lonely If I’m Never Alone?

Sharon Community, Friendships 7 Comments

Community can be so elusive, can’t it? I didn’t fully understand the rareness of true, heart friends until I moved away from North Carolina 2 years ago. Starting over is much harder than I thought it would be, but cross-country re-locations are not the only obstacle to community. Another barrier to community can be life stage. As a single person, …